My fiance is pregnant, but that isn't when the issue with intimacy stared. This relationship has moved on quickly as we haven't been together a full calendar year, and already got engaged and she got pregnant within a month. I have a very high sex drive as she said she did when we first got together, though I've never really seen any proof of that. She was on antidepressants when we met, and her doctor changed the meds a few months into the relationship. The change in her demeanor, attitude, and all around presence in the moment (always seeming distant) was pretty immediate and noticeable. I tried every way I could possibly think of to have productive conversations on the topic of lack of sex, while still thinking of her feelings, but anytime I brought it up she called me manipulative and the conversation quickly what escalate into something completely off topic leaving me feeling like the asshole (which ironically seem pretty manipulative to me). I've dealt with depression in the past, so I understand the lack of sex drive etc but the way I see it is that relationships are all about compromise and I definitely do plenty of things for her and our little family (we have a 2-year-old that she had in a previous relationship) that I'm not super thrilled about, but I still do them. I'm not saying that I need it everyday, nor would I expect it, but in the past 5 months we've had sex one time. Oral is off the table unless we have sex, so she says. Her explanation is she likes it in the moment, during sex, but otherwise not so much. That's a whole lot of rejection, and it makes me feel pretty alone honestly. To top it all off, she's had a very rough pregnancy so far, and has been sick 9 out of 10 days.I get it-- Im a super empath and and have been as empathetic as I can be the entire time. I do everything around the house, including laundry, dishes and the cooking, on top of watching our son while she's at work, and working myself and it goes virtually unrecognized. One time I brought it up in a not-so-productive way (responding to something she said with a totally off topic "you're right babe--it does look great in here") and was swiftly and angrily met with "sorry I don't give you a pat on the back every time you do something. I'm totally committed to this relationship, and will do whatever I can / need to to keep it as healthy as possible, but I'm about to lose my mind with this one not-so-small aspect of it. How do I convey in womanspeak the gravity of my need to get it in?

HAAAALLLLPPPPP!