As the title says my partner and I are taking a “break” tbh I don’t even know if it is or if it’s a break up. My partner couldn’t give me an answer either.

Some important info is that we both want to be in each other’s lives still. My partner said they love me but aren’t in love with me right now. They also need time to reflect and process things as we had an incident happen last year and never actually followed through with taking time apart then. It’s kinda built up over time since.

Anyways so this started last Friday, by the time Saturday night rolled around I was pretty upset and had many questions I still wanted to ask to know what was going on exactly. I ended up going over and dropping off some gifts, we both cried, they drove me home and we talked a little. They said they very much need time to themselves and to reflect and process everything, I agreed to it again and they told me they’d contact me once they’re feeling ready.

So Sunday night I get a text from them just wanting to check in with me. I replied and gave them the same. Conversation just kinda went from there naturally and I asked what they were comfortable with at this point in time and they said we can chat as long as it’s non stress related things. They admitted they were alone and were feeling scared and wanted company too. They eventually asked me to record a voice message for them to help calm them which I did. Agreed that I could reach out Monday cause I wanted their support with something. Overall it was very nice for a change instead of everything being about what’s going wrong.

Monday night rolls around and we once again start chatting. I ended up asking if I could let them know about something and they said yeah. So I did and they appreciated it and they were honestly scared that I was going to say I found a new partner. I explained that when I told them I’d be waiting for us to figure this out and wouldn’t be searching for new partners. That I’m 100% committed to this. I was being very sincere and genuine and they just replied with “thank you haha” which hurt. I tried asking about that and said that they are allowed to be genuine with me while we do this but I also understand that it may be difficult to do so right now and that it’ll happen at their own pace. They also weren’t feeling that sociable tonight either which I forgot to take into account.

Anyways, TLDR: I’m confused as to what’s happening. Very much getting mixed signals from one night to the next. I wasn’t expecting contact less than 24 hours later.