Update to my girlfriend cheated on me

This is a response from my post yesterday on dating advice. https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/rlzzmy/girlfriend_cheated_on_me/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

So yesterday was a shit show. I saw my ex yesterday as she is sticking around for awhile to help me cope with the break up. Tomorrow is my birthday so I’ll try to spend the day with her and go to the movies on Sunday but after that it’s most likely over and I probably won’t see her for a long time.

I told her how I used Reddit to post about what had happened between us in order for me to cope. I was excited to show her how people were so kind and helped me think positively for the future. She was furious with me for stating that she cheated on me and that random strangers online were calling her a POS or trash for not giving out the whole context of what had happened.

So I’m going to post the whole context of what had happened.

It started early this month when she felt that she wanted more freedom with people she was allowed to talk to. I told her if she wanted that than she could but we wouldn’t be together. But at this time there was a guy that was liking a lot her stories and reaching out to her. I usually would make her stop then and there and block him. But I didn’t.

Anyways. She said didn’t want a break or to separate. But that she was worried that these feelings were to appear again down the line and resent me for them later down the line. So in attempt to appease her I said we could try and go in an open relationship

I tried to be happy and look at the positives and think we could make it work. I got on tinder and looked for advice on how to spruce up my profile here on Reddit. But however I felt so uncomfortable with it. So two days in our open relationship I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and that I felt I wasnt feeling a lot of love from her.

She said that it was ok and that we could stop. She apologized because she realized she didn’t do her part as a girlfriend. But I asked her if she did do anything. And she said yes. She was with someone else. It was the guy who was constantly reaching out to her. I felt so heartbroken, abused and manipulated into this open relationship just for her to have a pass to be with this guy.

I decided to break up with her. But she pleaded and begged for me to take her back and understand it was never her intention and these feelings never appeared because of him. That he was nothing and that she was a victim. I gave her another chance. And took her back because she gave me such hope that she was going to love me and make us work through anything.

Looking back I think we should have given each other space for awhile. And not just assume that we could work through this because the following week there was a lot of hurt feelings being thrown upon each other and anger towards both of us that really ended us.

But now she says she lost trust in me because of me breaking up with her. because I always told her that I would be with her no matter what. And that she doesn’t see how we can move past this. It just hurts more because she gave me hope that she would do anything for me but give up once it got real hard.

She was upset that I called her a cheater but she basically emasculated me and ruin my confidence and so much more.