Yesterday my (29M) long distance gf (26F) got into a heated discussion. We’ve been talking via text (no phone calls or FaceTime) since about 3 months into quarantine. I wanted to send her a gift and asked for an address to send it to. I’ve asked her for it before early on in the relationship since she asked for mine to send a gift and she said I’d know hers when the time is right. Last night I asked and cited the prior conversation and asked if she would be willing to share or keep it a secret. She read keep it a secret and got SUPER upset/defensive and the conversation devolved into her taking that to mean I don’t trust her and I don’t think she loves me. I tried to back pedal and explain, but she wasn’t having it. She has been quiet all day and it’s making me uncomfortable; bad experiences with silence in the past. I feel kinda gaslit, but I need to know, am I subconsciously expressing trust issues left over from my previous TOXIC relationship?

We both had some bad relationship experiences prior to this and I don’t want to just abandon ship over one bad night. But to be honest the silence is cutting me pretty deep and the fact that she’d jump to a harsh conclusion like that so quickly. How can I/we overcome this?