For context, the holidays have always been hard for me, for a litany of reasons. I'm also hard on myself and although I know I'm a good person, I tend to inflate the negative aspects of myself and my life while downplaying or ignoring the positive.

Tonight I made a comment about doing something together like play a game or do a puzzle because I feel like we watch a lot of TV or I do while she goes on her phone. It turned into a big conversation and checked back to my insecurities and anxiety and apparent low self esteem. Not an argument just a big talk. Things got smoothed out but as she got into bed I could tell something was wrong. After some prodding, she said she's beginning to feel like she's at work listening to my self-deprecation and starting to feel distant because it's hard to be around me when I say stuff like that.

She has a lot of emotional baggage as well but she rarely opens up to me about it. I know she suffered some kind of trauma but she's never elaborated on it. She's also made comments like "some things make me feel like I can't trust you" but then won't talk to me about why because she has to process the feeling. But she never comes back to it. So at times it feels very one-sided in that I do all the emotional taking and she rarely does. I can see why she might feel like a therapist around me but I don't want that. I'm currently looking for one but how else can I help her not feel like a therapist besides not talking to her about my feelings?

Tl;Dr Gf feels like a therapist with me after asking me to open up.