My girl (22f) and I (23m) have been dating 9 months now, over the last two months or so I have felt unloved and unwanted, she's felt misunderstood and unheard. We are trying to work on it, but we descend into fight serials sometimes.

Say I started a fight about something and a spiral ensued. She yelled at me. Yelling is a huge trigger for me, I asked, no begged for her to stop yelling. I descended into a full blown panic attack/ mental breakdown and she kept yelling at me as I was for lack or better terms, hyperventilating and whimpering into a pillow. I forget now what the fight was about, I just remember being yelled at, and her defending the yelling now as how she communicates, and "the only way I hear her" She says sorry, but won't accept that behavior as abusive which I think it is? Maybe it isn't idk? That's the first issue.

Second issue, I wanted to spend Thanksgiving with her, she goes to a friend's where I was told I wasn't invited and she didn't want me there. I later learned they were okay with me coming, but my partner still didn't want me there. She said she just needed space. I felt abandoned.

My family called to check on me over Thanksgiving and I told them I was home alone, and that she felt she needed space. They were furious at the situation, but they said it's up to me to deal with things, but that theyre furious.

Sorry if this is a bit much. It's just hard to think clearly when you're in a relationship sometimes, especially one where you fell so hard and so fast. (To help the problem she was also my childhood crush when I was like 10 so yeah)

What is your advice in this situation? I'm a bit blinded by emotion and it's difficult to think clearly, plus I'm attempting to study for grad school finals. Should I leave, or try to work through this? I'm slowly beginning to feel it's long gone and it blows. Thanks in advance.

My one edit, that makes things more complicated: we live together, share a lease and bills, and I have a German Shephard so it is extremely difficult to find a place that would rent to me.