I am 26F he is 30M. We’ve been dating for 1.5 years and living together for a majority of it.

When we got together I really was impressed how he wasn’t so much into “keeping up with the Jones’s” so to speak. Now, he makes a lot more money than he did before and has gotten into this shopping habit (clothes specifically).

It sounds so silly when I type it but he wants to be a fashion influencer. I do have to admit he has great taste and our friends always tell him his style in on point. I guess it’s his creative outlet.

He just splurged hundreds on a camera, specifically to take pictures of himself for his future Instagram.

Now for me, I’ve historically been insecure in relationships. Don’t really have a reason to be, but I have a history of anxiety and depression so I’m a little prone to feeling “not enough”. Before anyone says anything, I am in therapy and also going to see a psychiatrist soon because I’ve noticed that my old pattern of feeling insecure even though I’m in a committed relationship is coming up again.

The idea of him creating this Instagram and just being obsessed with his clothing and style just bugs me. I truly want to be happy for him because I know he’s really excited about it. And honestly, he didn’t really have any hobbies before this. To each their own right? But I also know this will create lots more attention for him and I just don’t know when he became this obsessed with himself. Instagram already gives me anxiety.

Am I being ridiculous right now & is this really my insecurity propping up? Or is this a bit of a vain hobby to want to pick up?

TLDR: boyfriend has shopping problem and wants to become a fashion influencer and take pictures of himself all the time. I am feeling insecure about this hobby but not sure if it’s just that I don’t have hobbies of my own that fill me or if this is a weird vain thing for him to want to do.