I have a really close long-distance friend I care about a lot. We've been friends for about 2 years now and found each other through a video game. When we met the pandemic was just starting, she lives in Canada and I'm in the US. She worked at a grocery store originally but ended up quitting due to the pandemic since it sounds like the Canadian government took better care of its citizens better than the US did. My friend spent most of the pandemic playing video games. She did have one other job very shortly but discovered it wasn't for her, which was working from home for a cable company as customer service. Now I knew she struggled with depression and anxiety before but it seems now its become so crippling for her she can barely get motivated to do anything other than play video games.

For a while she was streaming on twitch and now she isn't even doing that, although that might be my fault since we had a conversation about twitch as a career and I told her it takes a long long time for it to be a realistic thing and she would still need an income in the meantime. Since then she doesn't do anythign, really. She said she hates the idea of working a normal job (I hate working, we all do but we do it because its what we have to do.) She lives with a roommate and it sounds like she still is getting money from the government. I dunno how Canada works but I don't imagine this can go on forever. When I ask her if anything is wrong she gives me wishy washy answers and basically says her motivation is gone. I say talk to someone, a professional and etc, she says its too expensive. I'm at the point where her misery is making me miserable. I like her a lot and want her to be happy but I'm taking a step back from our friendship because of how its making me feel to see her just wallow in self-pity and not really seem interested in doing anything about it. I'm kinda at a loss as to what my options are.