This is going to be a long one…. I (25f) met my boyfriend (28m) 6 and a half years ago. We’ve been together for 2 years and a few months now. A little insight first, before getting into a relationship with my current bf now I was in a 2 year relationship with a narcissistic emotionally and physically abusive man. Let’s just say everything he did was questionable he was a cheater and even brought women in our home and made sex videos in my bed. Long story short I left him and moved back in with my family. My current boyfriend now knows everything that I’ve been through and is the most caring thoughtful man I’ve ever met. I sometimes feel like I really met my soulmate and I’ve never felt this way before. Before we got serious we’ve always been friends and we loved to screw each other lol fwb I would call it but we also had a balanced friendship other than that we talked about everything together. Moving on, when I moved back in with my family I was in so much emotional pain and I did not have any interest on getting into another relationship with anyone else anytime soon. But me and my current bf now started hanging out more often than before because obviously I wasn’t in a relationship anymore. So things got more serious and I was getting scared. On a couple of occasions he told me he wanted something more out of our friendship, he wanted be together and I told him no each time he asked because I didn’t trust men. He told me he understands and wouldn’t force me to do anything I wasn’t comfortable with. But one night he took me on date and asked me again and before I answered he told me he would never do anything to hurt me and that he loved me. So I gave in. After half a year my mom suggested I move in with him, my mom and I always butt heads. So he allowed me to move in with him. He also lives with his older sister (41f) and her (10f) daughter. This is where the problem is. They have a 2 bedroom apt it’s pretty small so there’s no privacy. His sister has no life no friends and no boyfriend. In my opinion she has no reason to be living with him she makes enough money to live on her own with her kid. My bf puts her first all the time he spends more time with her than me.he constantly calls her and they spend hours on the phone together when there not together he rarely calls me and when he does we’re on the phone for about 10 min or less. She has a copy of his car keys all access to his bank accounts and has his ss security card and birth certificate. She does everything for him like she’s his wife or mom and that’s why their mom doesn’t get along with her. I need advice because other than that he’s a great man I can tell he loves me and he’s always there for me but when I bring up this situation about him and his sister being too close he seems to not see a problem with it and doesn’t care. He also does everything for her like pay bills of hers that she can’t afford pays for her and her daughters trips to Disney every year pays half for her private school like literally takes care of them as if they’re are his wife and daughter. And I’m sick of it please help. And the apt we live in is his his sister lives off of him. He wants to buy a duplex and said she could live in the other unit, like why do you have to drag your 41 year old sister with you everywhere. If I knew this two years ago I wouldn’t have accepted this relationship but the way things are right now I’m irritated but it’s like everything else in the relationship is perfect but this is a huge problem for me.