25F and he’s 29M. I’m extremely unsettled with the way things have been going. For the majority of our 1.5 year relationship things were great. Like I was truly happy. With covid, we had spent most of it apart in our own places and would travel to each other’s during the week. When his lease was up he moved into my small 1 bedroom while we both worked from home. Probably not the best idea. We made it work though and I felt proud of how we handled it.

Now we’re in a new 2 bedroom. Much bigger. Things before we moved here have been rocky but now since we’ve moved in it’s almost like a living hell. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells. His moods seem up and down. For reference he’s going through a lot with his family and also work but I obviously don’t want to undermine how I’m feeling too.

I feel like every time I assert a need he gets defensive. He never used to do this but lately it’s been awful. I’m already homesick since I’m living states and states away from my family and I’ve been doing an inventory on my life and I just don’t know if I’m meant to live in this state (Thas another issue for me)

We literally can’t agree on anything. The guest room— who is going to have that has an “office?” Either way one of us would be upset. I wanted it for me since I had to move my dog out of our bedroom into the guest room to sleep since she keeps him awake. That was a big sacrifice for me. Since that’s like her room now, during the day and night I would like that space for me to cuddle her and read and such. He doesn’t understand that is what I need.

It’s just a whole mess. Is this a product of COVID for over a year, spending ALL DAY together 24/7? We both don’t have many friends here although trying to make them. We do see our couple friends but only like once a month or every 2 months.

I’m in therapy. Hes not. I’m learning a lot and trying to learn to stand up for myself after being in an abusive relationship and I do not want to find myself in another.

Is this a huge warning sign or is it just a product of our frustrations and constant togetherness?

TL;DR - boyfriend and I constantly fighting and I feel like I’m walking on egg shells in our new apartment, I feel that we cannot agree on anything and there are resentments building up. I can’t tell if it’s emotional abuse when he doesn’t listen or care about my needs and thinks it’s just me being selfish, or if we’re both exhausted and lost ourselves due to COVID and working from home.