I (23) and my new girlfriend (20) have been together for 3 months. She is very popular at her college, and is in a sorority. She likes to party a lot at frat parties and bars and talks to a lot of guys on Snapchat from the frats. She is very much obsessed with the social media thing.

She’s also very open with who she’s been with (2 before me) and who she’s kissed at parties and such (about 15 people mostly frat guys). But she Snapchat’s some of the guys she’s made out with at parties…One frat even threw her a huge party for her birthday.

I’m very uncomfortable with her getting drunk and going to frat parties for obvious reasons. But she says I have nothing to worry about because she doesn’t dance on frat boys and she knows almost all of them.

She seems very loyal and has been cheated on before actually. So I believe and trust her but this one fact of her constantly being in contact with all these guys freaks me out a little.

On top of that if she’s going out, I told her I’d like to go to bars with my friends, and she is not fond of the idea of that, but she encourages me to go out.

She confessed to me many times how much she likes me and how I’m her ideal guy. I am an officer in the military and live alone.

I feel like if I keep bringing this stuff up she will be turned off at my insecurity.