Me(33m) and my wife(37f) have been together almost 15 years. Well back in January I confessed to having affair. I owned up to everything I did and told her I wanted to try to work things out. So after a month we say down and talked and agreed to try to work it out. So when that started she was texting her ex bf while we where trying to work on us. She was sending videos and pics and talking about hooking up with him too get back at me. She was hiding all this from me till I cought her. Then her ex bf ghosted her. So things are good for a month and then we get into another huge fight. First thing she told me was imma gonna talk to my ex again (who lives a state away) so she can figure out what will make her happy. I told her I want us to work. So she has been talking to him for the last 2 weeks sending pics and saying she wants to try to build a relationship with him. But all he wants is pics. He will ignore her all day and barely respond to her. She is doing this all in my face to. But she tells me if I focus on us and prove I want this she will stop talking to him. But it's hard to focus on us when she is talking to him. She tells me I can show her she can be happy with me, she will stop talking to him. I don't know what to do. (UPDATE) Now is talking about driving to California to go see her ex and so she can make up her mind about who she wants to be with me or her ex!