My girlfriend turns 18 this June, and I turn 18 in November. Now I know she loves partying because that’s how we both met and we just both look for any chance to go to parties. I have trust in her not to be chatting to other guys flirtatiously because we’ve been dating for a year and a bit and I’ve learnt to trust her.

However, whenever she goes to parties with her friends that I’m not at I always get crazy anxiety. Her and her friends smoke a lot of weed and would take any drugs they can get their hands on. I dabble in all that stuff but I know how fucked up even getting drunk can make you and I never trust situations like that where she’s out and just spend the whole night being anxious as fuck.

I’ve talked to her about it and she said she doesn’t wanna have to worry about going out with her friends because we lack trust but I just can’t help imagining situations where she’s flirty with some hotter guy or is getting hit on by some other guys. Then my anxiety leads me to think of situations where she’s having sex with guys from the parties she goes to.

But this hasn’t been on my mind too much lately as the only parties she’s been too I’ve been at. But I know that when she turns 18 she’s gonna start clubbing and stuff and that’s just stressing me out. Even though her friends don’t turn 18 till near the time I turn 18 but I know she’s gonna find people who turned 18 and will go clubbing on it. She won’t stop talking about “i can’t wait to be able to go clubbbinnng” and it just puts a red flag in my head even though she wants to go clubbing and festivals with me too. But i just can’t shake the thought.

I know sometimes a girl’s only goals is just to make her self feel better about herself, and I feel like her cheating may not happen during normal times (although i’ll always be stressing about it) but sometimes I’m just moody and our relationship has rough patches and I’m scared she’s just gonna be off her head at a club, angry at me and sick of my depression and anxiety and will just want to have sex with someone better. All I can imagine is a guy hitting on her at a club then them going in the toilets to fuck because of how thrilling that is compared to us having sex. Even though she says we have great sex, and I think so too. But I can’t get over that thought

It’s dumb as fuck because this thought pops up in my head and we’re normally on the text most of the day and I’d just be in my own head creating these situations which put me in an angry and anxious mood towards her which often lead me to be blunt over texts or just blunt irl if I think of these situations while i’m with her. and i know my anxiety is going to be the death of our relationship. she understands that i overthink a lot and she does it too. but i feel like it’s gotten to the point where my anxiety leads me to think of situations that i can’t even bring up with her. it started with little things that i can just bring up with her to have her calm my over thinking about our relationship down. but at this point i can’t go “yo i’m worried you’re gonna fuck other guys when you go clubbing soon and it’s been on my mind”.

someone help.