Hello, I'm here because I honestly have no clue what to do.

I have been with my boyfriend for around a year and right during our anniversary he decided to start talking with his ex, without telling me. I noticed because he was talking with someone I didn't know, I asked who and he said a friend and based on other info I managed to figure out it was his ex.

The thing is, my boyfriend has a long history with her, and even at the start of our relationship he would constantly mention her, show me pictures of her and tell me how her current was ugly. He did stop after I asked him to, and to me that really made our relationship move on better. After he began talking with her again, I had the same feelings come back to me, a feeling that I wasn't enough and that he was looking for her to get something I didn't have.

Just so you know how their past relationship was, he had an e-mail with her name, would spend all the time talking with her even ignoring his friends, you know he seemed obsessed.

When I told him how I felt about this, he at first tried to calm me and say I could talk with her if I wanted to and he said he would do the best to make me comfortable with it. But I never was comfortable with it, I talked with her and even then, I still don't feel good about it.

I didn't really have much of a problem with her, of course I got jealous, but things were ok after I managed to talk with her (i mean, ok like, i didn't hate her nor anything like that), she is from abroad and married so I really would doubt he would betray me with her. But you see, when your boyfriend showed an obsession with someone and then goes back to talking with them you can't help but feel insecure.

I told him all of my feelings about this and I told him a way that would make me more comfortable would be if he talked with her less constantly (they are talking daily, even when we're together) it would make me feel more comfortable with the situation. This discussion has been going on for about a month and it has been destroying our relationship. I honestly don't know what to do anymore because everytime I try to bring up the situation to feel less anxious about he begins to be angry at me and call me abusive for not wanting him to talk with his friend...

What should I do? I feel like my relationship is just falling apart