Hi, I feel like this needs a preface. A background. My boyfriend and I, we will call him “Jake” (not using real names)- we have been together for 5 years, since 2015. He has a best friend- we will call him “Sam”- they’ve been friends since like middle school. It’s been a long time. Jake and I live together and have for 3.5 years. Sam is a family friend to Jakes family. Sam and Jake hang out frequently (they’re in their upper 20’s, so they smoke and play video games and I normally watch or am on my phone or making supper, sometimes I will join) it’s really not a huge deal; I really don’t mind it.. until Sam would text Jake EVERY DAY - without fail- “hey man, what’s up” basically saying like wanna chill and smoke. I understand this- he doesn’t have a rig to smoke dabs out of, so he uses ours. I get that. I’ve been so understanding with his friend it’s ridiculous. And he’s not a bad guy but sometimes I would just like a little bit of time with Jake by myself. You know, like any girlfriend would want. The last time we had a day together just us, was our five year anniversary on November 27. That also ended in his sister going into labor so we had to go watch the kids. He’s here. Every. Single. Night. Without. Fail. I brought it up to my boyfriend, I told him this is how I felt, and he sort of dismisses it by saying that this is the only friend he has. And trust me, I know how that feels, I have literally one girlfriend that lives an hour away. But no, I don’t know how it feels to see your friend every single day. When I tell him that I would like to have a night alone w him to just watch a movie or chill, he says “well we can watch a movie when he’s here too.” Like no, you’re missing the point. I bring it up all the time saying “ I don’t want to argue with you, just maybe sometimes you could tell him you’re just hanging out with me today” but he raises his voice and I back down because I don’t want an argument. Sorry this is such a long post, I’m a bit high and really I’m my feelings today. Idk what I should do? I tried bringing it up to him in person and I’ve tried not saying anything and being completely quiet when Sam is over, neither is making him realize I’m serious. Help??