So I’ve been going to therapy and the last task I was given was to try and stop to watch the patterns in my life. Since that day I’ve been to therapy a few more times to check and talk about it. My work life has gotten significantly better and ... After a long while, finally found a guy that likes me back the same way I like him. And I wasn’t even looking for it hahah

Point is that I just stopped and watched my pattern and realized that this moment in the relationship (beginning, we like each other, everything’s cool) is when I fuck it up.

I get insecure and start worrying about things I shouldn’t worry about.

I would like this to work. I mean... see where it goes. Without my patterns ruining it.

So I wanted to know what advice you could give me.

I’m a very anxious guy, my doctor took my meds off 5 months ago but this kind of situations still trigger me... because i really like him and i fear he’ll end up abandoning me. And that fear makes me act in ways that lead him to abandon me.

I initially posted this somewhere else. But got no responses. But there’s an update... he asked me to be his partner and this means that I’m doing something different... but this also means that my insecurities are growing stronger and harder to handle.

So a second question... what are good coping mechanisms for people like me?

————— If you’re into psychology this part could help.

After a couple of tests I was diagnosed with neurosis... and they think that it was possibly caused by my dad’s mistreatment.

He was super aggressive, angry, I couldn’t ever say anything in fear of what he could say or react and he would always make me watch him cheating (not sexually, but introduce me to his girls and tell me about them)

Thanks in advance