My best friend is from Michigan and was in a toxic and emotionally abusive relationship where she lived with him. I wanted to give her a new opportunity to come live with me in CA. I had talked to my parents, BF, therapist about if it was a good idea to put the offer out there. I was very conflicted because me and her have a rollercoaster history, for example within the first month of me knowing her, I had found her attempt overdose from meds and had to call 911. It’s always one chaotic scene after another. But she is my best friend- she gets me like no one else. We have amazing fun memories together and we are always laughing.

All the people I asked were very wary about her moving into my apartment (i live alone in a 1 br) i said I will have boundaries and rules and if she broke any I would have her leave. I have a problem with boundaries and asked those around me to help.

Rules are: 1. Rent paid on time. 2. No boys

On my bday (2 weeks into her living here) she invited some random guy over. She was really high and had him sleep over. Upon being confronted about it- there was no apology only excuses and “I can’t change anything that happened”.

Everyone is mad and wanting me to throw her out. My heart can’t do that, she means too much to me and have been friends for 5 years. My BF (we have been together for 2.5 years) said he will leave me if I don’t get her out.

I don’t know what to do. Help.

edit The no boys rule was made because she has a history of hooking up with the wrong crowd. Drug dealers. Ex convicts. The guy she had brought over on my bday smuggles drugs from Mexico to CA.

additionally They hate each other because he thinks she’s a bad influence on me and is always getting me in danger or involved in crazy hysteria. She has also insinuated that he is racist multiple times (they are both white). She hates him because she thinks he’s way too direct and stubborn. She calls him a “straight”