We've been together about six months. Frankly, he's not responsible. He lost a job back in November and only recently was able to find a new one that's part time and minimum wage (so it took him roughly 7 months). He lives at home (and I kind of do too, but it's unstable and I need a stable living situation ASAP but have been waiting on him, he's got til October to get out of the house and neither of us can afford to rent alone, yes I'm considering just finding a roommate at this point, but I'd prefer not to). After he lost his job (missed too many days due to throwing up violently for a day or more at a time, company didn't care why) he was never motivated to put in job applications. I had to nag him nearly every day to start doing it more consistently and I had to sit down with him and do it with him on many occasions. I made his resume for him because, at the age of 25, he didn't have one and didn't know how to make one. He also has a chemical dependency on weed. He has smoked consistently for several years without ever taking a tolerance break. He only smokes concentrates (it's legal here) and needs a lot to get high. I recently asked him how much he spends on dabs and, bringing in only unemployment money, he's been spending anywhere between $800 and $1000 a MONTH on DABS ALONE. And when I pressed him for months to go to the doctor to find out why he's been throwing up so much, they diagnosed it as cannabinoid hyperemesis syndome--smoking way too much weed. I've tried to show support, I don't feel like I've been too hard on him but I'm getting frustrated. I can't make him be more responsible. It's up to him. And he's shown some improvement, but he's still not taking initiative.

The things is, I do really love him. I want to see him succeed. I'm just burnt out. I don't tell my friends about these problems because I'm embarrassed that he's wasted so much money and hasn't gotten a job until recently, and it's not going to bring in enough money for rent. I really wanted this to work out. I wanted to see him grow. I feel as though I've put so much effort into the relationship and into helping him, only to feel taken for granted. He's very loving and sweet and I love being around him, but I feel like I'm at my wit's end. I don't want to leave him, but I'm feeling like I no longer have a choice. And I know it's going to break both my heart and his if it comes down to that.If we don't break up, I need advice on how to navigate this. I feel like I've been so supportive and patient. I'm trying to convince him to get help by going to a clinic to talk about how he can get help to stop smoking weed, at least long enough to get a better job and take a tolerance break (I don't care that he smokes, it's just WAY too much). But he can't even seem to take the initiative to do that.

ETA: I felt it would be selfish to mention my situation because I didn't want it to seem like I was comparing the two of us, but I do have a relatively decent job. Not enough to afford an apartment alone on top of my other expenses, but it's the best job I've had in my 7 years of working.