So I (27F) have been running a YouTube channel for almost 5 years now (currently sitting at 8.17K Subs) and so I have met my fair share of friends in the span of time. In that time, I've met and online dated my second partner (20M) who I'll call S for this - I'm polyamorous and in an open relationship - and at first, things were fine between me and S. But at some point things just went sideways!

We started getting snippy at each other over small things to the point we'd block each other for a while. I think at some point, what kinda messed us up was the fact my YouTube channel was doing way better than S (we're both into reading fanfiction for My Little Pony). S claims my channel only got popular because I'm a female doing readings. Meanwhile, his channel struggled even though he's been doing his longer. I had even helped S at one extended point with his channel (and still am at times) all without a thank you. I have even suggested that since he's so busy with work, he just uses a day off to record something and I'd take care of the editing! All he says is "I can't because I don't have space for my computer and mic" or "I don't wanna record laying on my bed".

Things have gotten a bit passively hostile between me and S again over one of the videos I did for his channel...and it was only because, as he put it, "I was too lazy to go back and fix one little thing". The little thing was adding in a 10-second intro to the video..after I had already spend several hours on a very old and slow computer just editing the video...and then an extra 10 hours waiting for it to export (again, old and slow computer). So we argued about it before he finally just said to leave it as it and then blocked me for like 2 days. I waited for like 4 days to see if the video got posted, it didn't just for the reason he wanted the intro changed. At that point, I had gotten a new computer so I just bent to his demand and added the intro and sent it back to S before shutting down for another 3 days. The first time I spoke to personally him was last night via a group chat. I was mostly fucking around by being passive-aggressively snippy with S but in a joking way. He messaged me privately saying he doesn't hate me (I have low self-esteem so this time I spiraled so far, I had convinced myself he actually did hate me) and that he had unblocked me some time ago but just doesn't really talk. S explained that when he said "he's done" it just means he's done with the situation and not me and that he doesn't have the heart to end it with me because he cares too much. After some time, yeah I see how I was an asshole last night but overall, I'm not sure.

TL;DR: my second partner and I are kinda rocky and sometimes over seemingly petty stuff. Am I an asshole for potentially making a big deal over things that could be nothing?

Side note, we have met twice face to face now and we never have problems. All these issues crop up when we aren't physically together.