My gf is younger than me by a decade and recently made comments on how I need to be better with going down on her. I do notice that she likes a crazy amount of "flat pressure," like my jaw and tongue is always exhausted afterwards. A few times I felt she was trying to rip my jaw open like she's King Kong

Doesn't bother me too much because I've had aggressive and partner's who've needed a lot of pressure before.

Plus, I like going down on my partner's and have never had any serious issues in the past. Sometimes, they will give me pointers in the beginning (everyone is different) and I do my best to follow them. Later on they were seemingly happy and even some would state or joke that I was really good.

I've never had a woman say I suck though until now (well she didn't say I suck). Even if I did, and didn't know. I feel like we worked it out with communication and practice.

She's implying that I'm not good and possibly was never good.

Ok whatever. Didn't bother me much because she wasn't there and it's very subjective.

But, When I asked her what to do, she didn't give me any advice. I asked about previous boyfriends, etc... nothing.

Eventually, she just said to look at some porn.🤦🏾‍♂️

I stated there's so many things pornstars do. But, she won't even give me an example of a porn video to watch. Maybe I'm too old but, porn is fake af for me. Do people actually copy what pornstars do?

Is that why she's so aggressive?

Anyways, for me this shows that she might have no idea what she wants.

Any advice?

I really do wish to wish to improve on what she wants.