So yesterday my partner asked me for 1,000$, while we were both at work, unfortunately I don’t have it so I told him (all thru text), then I proceed to text if everything was okay? And why he needed that money? He basically got snappy through text, implying I need to mind my business about where the money would go. Then he said his brother (younger, actor living in NY city) asked for it...I then asked if he’s okay, is he behind on rent? Could he ask your mom? etc etc. He calls me, snaps at me, says when family and good friends ask for money we don’t ask why, that we give them money with no questions asked. I’m sorry, I feel differently about this. I’d like to know where my money is going, I’d rather not be buying his brother with expensive taste 1,000$ coat or something. Now if he seriously was in trouble, then yes I’d buckle down and figure out a way to get him what he needs, but it needs to be legit. Anyway my partner basically says “for now I am not discussing with you anything personal like this”, I found this to be an insult, a threat, and lack of transparency in our relationship. We were doing so well, he was healthy, meditates every day, exercise, but I’ve noticed a turn in him, his lack of attention to me...last week he blamed the cold weather for making him feel depressed. But I’m also feeling the negativity. He stopped meditating, stopped loving on me, and even picked up drinking again (he abstained from alcohol by choice due to his yogi practices, never had issues with alcohol but chose not to), his lifestyle seems to have taken a turn and now it’s affecting us. We’ve been through this before and I know he has a pattern, but seriously whose right about this money thing? Was it okay to ask where it would be going? I know his family is very private, they have the mentality like if someone in the family murdered someone, they would keep a tight lip to protect each other...etc etc. but I still don’t feel like I’m in the wrong here. How can I prove to him I’m right for asking? How to I explain it clearly. He shut me down yesterday, still standing strong that I’m the wrong one. It’s so frustrating, I feel like I had legit questions!!! How can I shake him and make him wake up???!!!!!!