I have noticed that I seem to have a really bad habit and I hope that I can get some insight on how to work on it. I have a problem breaking up with men, for some reason when I feel like it is obvious that the relationship is over or not working out I assume that the person I am with is on the same page.

I begin to decrease the time I spend with them, openly speak about the future whole indicating it's not OUR future, and do things in order to make up for the time I took away from myself in order to be a good partner.

If I have found someone else I don't hide the fact or go out of my way to keep it a secret and that's when I get met with this response of surprise as if it they just figured it out.

I know that by not addressing the fact that our relationship is over I don't really put much into making it easy for myself but I want to know why.

Why can't I just say that it's over? I rather be a complete bitch or treat someone like shit than say "I am breaking up with you".

I know it's fucked up, I know it's mean and it isn't fair and I wouldn't want to be treated that way but if I was treated that way I don't think I would still think I had a relationship with that person.

Believe it or not my current partner probably is the most suitable person in the world for me. We have a great relationship and we balance each other out and have learned a lot from one another but the person I was with before him wasn't given a proper break up and that's always bothered me.

We are going on 2 years of being together and I'm not really into commitment as far as marriage and growing old and having a family. However, I am comfortable and happy with how we both have found satisfaction with one another in a world where we are two of the most hostile and aggressive people any other time.

We hate everything but we love each other and have too much in common but are so different. This is something I want to be able to identify and fix because if there comes a time where it seems like it's best for us to part I want to be able to do it the right way.

I guess I need help on being able to break up with someone the right way and what might be a reason I have a hard time with it in the first place.