My SO and I have talked about our dreams of the future since a few months into our relationship and for a long while it felt like that was all we were going to do, is talk about it. It’s now been two years with him and we are looking at moving out. My family is currently looking at moving back to AZ (we are in OH now) next month and so we have been looking at apartments and have put one on hold and are signing the papers on the 6th. Since before I discussed my family moving with him though he only brought up moving out together after a fight and then wouldnt talk about it later on when we both were calm. It seemed kinda sketchy but I gave him the benefit of the doubt.

We put the deposit down last month and I have been super excited, we have a few weeks left until we sign the lease, but he doesnt seem as excited or he acts like he kind of isnt at all. I have had my stuff packed up since a little while after because I was excited and there was a mild flood in my room and it is so close and he still hasnt even cleaned his room or started packing. I get that he is stressed atm with work and dead lines because he was promoted but it feels like work is all he wants to do, we’ll still spend most of the day together but it isnt quality time and most of the time he’ll just fall asleep. His hours are the same but he has been treating me differently and I am worried.

I have asked him previously to do a few things that would show mutual respect like letting me know he has plans or has been talking to his friend girls because I will tell him when I talk with one of my guy friends who recently got married and has a child on the way because my bf is insecure since we used to date. He has stopped doing any of it. If he goes out he doesnt tell me until he’s there and wont text me and he has been saying rude things to me and idk what to do honestly. We have been having a lot more fights recently because of this and sometimes it feels like he doesnt care when he sees that his actions make me upset. He is a really sweet and loving guy but idk if I am just being insecure or do you guys think that me worrying is actually valid?