So firstly I don't think I'm looking to break up/cancel the wedding at this point unless that's something he wants and I wouldn't blame him if he thinks I can't meet his needs.

Secondly, I am very non confrontational and he is quite emotional. I know its not the greatest trait to have in a relationship, but it's what i struggle with, especially when emotions are high.

I've been having these feelings for awhile now, just haven't been able to put them into words and voice what it is that I need. I am a very independent person and he can be quite a clinger. I find myself lately getting more and more easily frustrated with him and his inability to be more independent.

He seems to have a hard time figuring stuff out for himself and instead asks me and its getting kind of annoying. For example we have a thing with our coffee pot, the filters must be the wrong size and keeps getting grounds in the coffee. Instead of figuring out why that's happening and how to stop it, he either just deals with it or asks me to fix it. All he has to do is move the filter over a little so it doesn't fold over when he closes the door for the grounds. Or when we decide to do something easy for dinner such as hamburger helper, frozen veggies, etc. He'll ask me how to make it instead of just reading the directions on the package. I don't know if it's petty or not, but it drives me nuts.

He is also not very financially independent. He has been getting better and working on paying off debts, which I am very proud of him for, but he will pay for bills and not leave himself enough money to get through the week and still be asking to borrow money. Near the beginning of out relationship, he borrowed about 1,500 from me, which at the time I didn't mind. He said he'd pay me back over the next few weeks. That was in June. He still owes me almost $1,000 and part of that has been borrowing money for other things. He does Express how grateful he is about him patient I am, but my patience is running thin.  He will pay money, then want to go out to eat, when I ask if he can help pay, he says no, but I just paid you money. Well I feel him paying on his loan then asking me to buy him food kinda defeats the purpose, especially when I pay for the majority of the bills/groceries already. I don't think hes purposely trying to mooch, but I do get a bit of that vibe sometimes.

Another issue is his daughter (7). I knew he had her before we started dating and it wasn't a big deal to me since she lived on the other side of the country. Circumstances have changed and now he has temp full custody until the end of the school year, although she pretty much lives with her grandparents. I do like hanging out with her and playing with her, I don't mind taking her to school when its needed, etc. But i feel like hes trying to force me into being more like a mother to her. I have explained to him that at this point I am much more career driven than mom driven and I'm just not ready to give up my life and sacrifice everything for a child right now. However I do want children, i just want to be more stable financially, with a house, marriage, etc. Her mother is in her life so it's not like he needs to fill that role. I also really don't like that he makes comments about being tired while taking care of her or it's nice when she isn't here for a few days so he can relax. It puts me off because hes the one that wanted to fight for custody, of course hes going to have the responsibility of taking care of her and she basically only lives with us on the weekends. I did support him when he wanted custody and will continue to do so, but honestly wouldn't be too upset if she gets put back with her mom. Shes mostly an ok kid, but does have some emotional/behavioral issues that have been slowly getting better.

He is a very kind, loving, and caring man, which is why I fell for him, but his clinginess is starting to get to me. We haven't even been together a year and I am starting to regret moving so quickly. We moved in together right away and got engaged after 4 months. The wedding is set for May 2020, but if it was up to him, we would be married already. He acts sad/upset if I leave for work first and don't give him a kiss, where I get annoyed by being woken up. If hes home and I'm working he'll text me as soon as I leave saying he misses me, where I don't mind having a day to myself. I really dont like a ton of PDA in public especially when people are in close quarters, but he loves it, I guess he likes asserting that he's mine? I don't mind a quick kiss or anything, but definitely don't like showing off. I do love cuddling and being close, but at night when I sleep, I want to sprawl and not be restrained.  He knows this, but still wants to cuddle and hold me.

Sorry this ended up a lot longer than I expected.  TL;DR. My fiance is kind of clingy and I am very independent. How do I ask him for more space in our relationship without hurting him?