So. I met this girl on tinder (were both girls).... we were both confused about what we were and attraction, all that, but we just clicked. We'd been talking for 2 weeks, all the time. She even asked me why I hadn't asked her out yet. I was scared and instead of being honest I just said, well you haven't asked me out either. We kept talking, all the time. I was starting to like her, really like her, and I thought she felt the same. Then she started to go quiet, when I'd reach out she'd say she just needed to think to process. She'd always come back and wed talk again after a few days. I invited her to a music festival I was running, she said yes, really excited. Then stupidly, I asked her 2 days beforehand how she was feeling about everything, she clammed up and freaked out said that she couldn't come anymore. That she didn't see a long term future. It was crushing.

After the event she messaged me. Apologising for not coming, asking how it was. Saying that shed always be there to talk, that she still wanted too. Then we were back on again, just back to normal. A little less regular that's 24/7 but I thought that was actually a good thing.

I was less intense, well I thought I was, and she was more proactive. She actually asked me out. And then was disappointed when the day didn't work for me. We made plans for the next day after work. We both had stuff to do so we knew it wouldn't be a whole night thing. I was on time she was late, wed been talking all day, she even asked twice whether I could still make it. We both were practically wearing the same thing, we laughed about it.

The date went great. I was nervous and awkward as usual but the chat was natural, and easy.

We both agreed to meet up again. Hugged hello and longer goodbye. She initiated both.

We talked for another few days, all the time. And then I think I fucked up again. I made a joke, it was a running joke that wed had all month about keeping a list of all the stuff she didn't like.

Wed been talking as normal and then it came up and I said, you can keep the list of all the stuff we dont like and I'll keep the list of all the stuff we should do..

Radio silence. I assumed she was thinking again so I left it 3 days... then on the 4th day i tried again with the, Hey how was the rest of your week text. Nothing.

It's now been 3 weeks of silence, and it hurts. I dont know what I did. I cant stop replaying everything over and over.

I've been ghosted right? What should I do?