I'll start by saying I'm beyond an extremely loyal guy...anyone who knows me knows I'd literally die for anyone in my circle... I'll also add that some of this will be a lot of information

My wife and I have been married for a little over 3 years, together for 8... For the first month or so we dated, we had sex multiple times daily. Then at the month mark almost literally, it went from 3 times a day to once every 4 to 6 weeks... As a guy with a high sex drive, I struggled with this. We discussed it frequently, it would get better for a short spell, than go back to the wah it was. We got married, same shit.

Last year, I stepped out on my marriage. I'm not the least bit proud of it, in fact, I was suicidal for 2 days until I told my wife. I didn't have sex with another woman, but other physical interactions occured. So I told her and we decided to go to counseling. When we did that, I learned that she already knew she was neglecting me and that she wasn't even the least bit surprised when I told her whst I did. I was more mad that her in actions kind of forced me to take such an extreme action that is so far outside of my character. Like never in a million years did I ever think I'd have done something like that.

With counseling, our sex life has become more frequent. But I've always felt like she could do more. Like I'm a huge fan of blowjobs and I rarely get them... Maybe less then 30 in the 8 years we've been together. But I'll literally do anything to make her happy.

We've been fighting a lot lately. We bought a house back in January, and she gets really bitch when she cleans it. Like I'll do my part of it and more, but she still gets mad. Our division of chores, in my opinion, is already tilted in her favor more than it is mine. I was fine with it until recently when I started to feel like she basically puts her all into work and kind of neglects us. I'm not saying that's what she does, just how it feels.

Yesterday we had a coming to Jesus conversation, in a manner of speaking. We both admitted we're not real happy at the moment, that we've been fighting more, but that we love each other. That's fine and well.

Back to the sex related question. As we're in this not so great scenario, I started wondering if other people get more out of their sex lives than I do. Like would I be happy somewhere else. A part of me logically knows I have a good woman and we're dealing with some shit, but a part of me never has been wholly satisfied with that aspect of our relationship. She is trying so I absolutely want to give credit where it is due.

Guys and girls of reddit, do you all give and recieve blowjobs and the like? Are you happy with your sex lives, or is the old adage really more accurate in that once you're married, your sex life ends?

I know I've asked several questions, so I appreciate your patience.