So I'm an ethical non-monogamist and was casually seeing a girl last fall. She had no intentions of moving forward so I guess you could call it fwb. However she made it clear that she was to be the only one even though I wasn't allowed to meet her kids or be there between the hours of 5 am and 11:30pm, even after 3 months of seeing each other. Anyway I got an opportunity to move out of state (which I had never done) and out of a bad situation with my family. She made it clear at the time that we were over if I left, even temporarily, but wanted me to do it for me. I put her on the spot about commitment at the time. I was slow to fall for her, which is unlike me but she's probably probably only the second hardest women I've ever left (the hardest being my kids' mom. I finally dropped the L bomb the last time I saw her. Anyway shes been on my mind ever since, I was only gone 6 weeks before that situation flopped and I was back home. I'm an hour further away from this girl now but finally got up the nerve to reinitiate contact today. I'm having a hard time reading her but would almost dare to say I love her. I just don't know if I can give up non monogamy for someone unwilling to commit.