In a previous post, I detailed how I needed to setup a date with a girl that I met at a party while drunk. She and I had really hit it off that night but when it came to just meeting up one on one while sober, I don't think I delivered. She politely laughed at my jokes and asked questions about what I like to do but I didn't feel like there was anything that differentiated me from any other guy.

Fast forward after the meetup, I texted her a couple of times and she responded that it was nice to see me again. After a few more texts she her replies drifted off. When talking with her in person, she had expressed interest in the house party I was attending tonight and asked that I text her details. Sending a text about the party and asking if she was interested led to no response and so I just dropped the conversation (after that single text).

Anyway, I have a fear that I'm actually quite boring without alcohol. My voice doesn't get excited and my attitude if very calm. I don't feel consciously anxious but I think my subconscious actions/results would indicate otherwise.

So I have little to no experience with dating (i.e. 2 dates my whole life) and they've only been with girls that I attract while drunk. As an introverted person, it is crippling to not have alcohol in my system on dates but I refuse to pre-game a date. So a couple of questions:

1) Is there anything I can do about being nervous? 2) Is it common to get dropped so quickly?

EDIT: Thanks to those who have stepped up to give input; I know it takes time and I really appreciate it! Thus far; however, responses have not addressed either of my questions and instead have a theme of "don't drink and meet". I agree that alcohol is not a great crutch which is why I asked question #1. Please keep the responses coming in!