I want to start of by saying that me and her have been together for a little less than 6 months now and this is both of our first real relationship.

At first everything was going great, wonderfully in love, hung out all the time. Just peachy keen all around. I should add our situations then and now for clarity- before she was just in college and didn’t have many classes so scheduling was easy and simple (I worked 30-40 hrs a week and still do). Then a couple months ago she got a part time job, I’m happy for her of course! but that was when it started getting harder to hang out consistently.

Before we would see each other multiple times a week, sometimes it would be one or none but it was ok because it wasn’t the norm. Now? I’m lucky if i see her more than once in 2 weeks, I love her so much but it’s so hard for me to go without seeing her for a while. I’m a very physical person and I can’t fully connect with someone when I can’t see them, touch them, be intimate with them.

Before we would have sex pretty much whenever we hung out, and if we didn’t? It was ok because I wouldn’t be waiting long. But now it’s becoming more and more common for me to go 2 weeks, 3 weeks, a month without sex and hardly any other forms of physical intimacy. As time goes by without seeing her and without being intimate my feelings start to wane and it feels horrible, sure they come right back when we’re together again. But I feel myself growing more and more frustrated with the lack of time I get to spend with her. I don’t want to seem like I’m only with her for sex because that’s far from the truth, but I have a much higher sex drive than her. It pains me to admit, but the longer I go without being intimate with her the more I start to seek out attention from other people.

I’ve asked other people for advice and I always get one of 3 answers 1.) Cheat on her. (No. Obvious reasons.) 2.) Just accept that this is the way things are going to be and try and deal with it. (better than the last option but that leaves me frustrated due to having my needs unfulfilled) or 3.) Break up with her (I really, REALLY don’t want to do that. I don’t want to break her heart and at this point I’m honestly afraid of going back to being alone.) I just don’t know what to do, I know this probably seems like a stupid problem to be so stressed about but it’s really bothering me and I’d appreciate some help, thank you!