So basically me and my bf have been together for 9 years. Everything was going great at first but then it started going downhill as we both quickly realised we were getting older and needed to get our lives together, savings made, etc. Well we both have lived with his mom for all these years. She is a diabetic and my bf says he doesn’t want to move out because she doesn’t have anyone to take care of her. Which she doesn’t need anyone he’s just using that as an excuse and I think his mom talks him into staying as well. I suffer from extreme depression and anxiety sometimes. My bf is a direct cause of this most of the time as well. He has a very controlling attitude towards me, anything I say he has a retort for everytime and thinks he knows everything and is never wrong, he thinks everyone around him is stupid and that he is superior in the way he thinks. Because of these struggles I have had issues holding down a good job. But I have been trying my hardest to at least keep money coming in. Even when I’m home not working, I’m online on my computer constantly trying to do side gigs, etc to earn some extra cash. He has worked full time jobs off and on but usually stays at the job for 6 months - 1 year. When he comes home he does nothing else but play Xbox or watch tv. He helps do dishes or clean sometimes but before this last year he hardly ever did anything and would complain if he had too do anything. I get that he works hard and I should clean for him but sometimes he needs to clean his own messes and do his own laundry. But I have had issues cleaning as well so I’m not gonna blame him for that. But fast forward to now, we are still living with his mom. I have been wanting to leave for the last year. And honestly we probably could have afforded to move out last year. But we spent a lot of money buying festival tickets that my bf wanted to go to so badly. I wanted to go as well so I said screw it and I helped him pay for almost the entire trip and tickets because I wanted to make him happy. Well as soon as we get back from the trip in September of last year, he quits his job and then got laid off from a shady weed dispensery he started working at the next month. From October to the first week of January he did not work at all and literally played Xbox and watched movies all day. Throughout the summer I was working a job that allowed me to have a work vehicle. But I got laid off from this job in September as it’s only seasonal. Well we only have one car so now I go out and DoorDash for the rest of the night after he gets home until I can save enough to get a down payment on a car or at least find a better job that is close by. Now he just got a new job and has been working there for 2 weeks. He now treats me like I have never worked a day in my life and we get in an argument everyday that I need to find a better job and that I should have already had a career, etc etc. He also calls me mean names constantly, tells me I’m stupid, spits at me, and lots more. Nothing physical just straight up verbal and mental abuse. A week ago though our car broke down and has been in the shop since yesterday. He has been using his mom’s car to drive to work so I haven’t been able to go doordash or go anywhere. I also do not have phone service because I started helping him pay his phone bill since he lost his job and mine now has been turned off. I have no money now either because I spent all my money supporting us both. He vapes as well and I always buy him vape juice and anything else he needs while he wasn’t working. During this time when he wasn’t working I was struggling very hard to pay his mom rent or anything. His mom has the same attitude and is very crazy at times so I never feel comfortable living here and the last year I would never eat dinner here. I was buying fast food and eating out every night before coming home so it cost me a lot of money. This is my fault though because I do make bad financial decisions. I do though help his mom with anything she asks though since I have been late paying bills for 2 months now. I cook dinners often and clean the dishes/ kitchen and run errands for her. But now my bf comes in everyday gossiping about me being broke to her so they both just act like bullies to me now. I am trying to help them pay things off but I’m literally stuck now, I have no money or car, and no phone to do anything. My bf now in spite of me won’t let me use the car or his phone either. We have now all been fighting and they pretty much want to kick me out. My parents who live halfway across the country said I could move back with them but I really didn’t want it to come to all this. But they are making me feel like garbage that they just want to throw to the curb. I’m not the only one either, my bfs brother gets treated like shit by them both too. They talk to him like a dog and say really mean things about his weight etc to his face. He has been the only person I can talk to about all this stress but even he is about to move out. Not sure what to do so any advice is appreciated!