I 34M know how the title sounds. I asked for a break so what's the big deal? But let me explain. I have had a few major life events happen that sent me on a downward sprial. Instead of walking around like an energy vampire, I told my gf 29F, that I would like a short break to collect myself. I explained that I wasn't breaking up with her, and that i would continue to pay my share of the bills.

The next day, she told me her mom sent her a house that was available for rent. I explained again that I wasn't leaving, I just needed time to clear my head. She explained her reasoning behind it, and I can concede and had some good points. But she also chose to move out of a house that i had paid off, to live in a house with pretty high rent. Her reasoning for that was "the house was too small". The house she is going to move to, is smaller than the house I had paid off.

Fast forward to a week and a half. It was a Friday and my head was more clear at this point, so I decided to come back. (I was sleeping in my semi, or I'd stay on my friend's couch) we were sitting on the couch when she got a message from a guy saying "it sucks you had to cancel, we could have had fun" so I asked about it. She was honest and said she had planned on meeting this couple the next night (Saturday) I asked when she canceled it, and she said Thursday. (The day before this Friday)

My thing is, not only had i explained i needed to get my head together, we had continued talking through the break. I explained things i was dealing with during this time. She said she understood. When I saw the message, I even explained that I felt like she had moved on, or given up on me. I was trying to work on myself so I wouldn't be a zombie.

She said it was a mistake, and that she only wants me. But I'm having trouble moving past it. And with the move, I'm having issues with that, cause her excuse of one house being too small, but then opting to move to a smaller one, it doesn't sit right.

Anyways, I was just looking for random strangers advice. TIA.

TL;DR I needed a break to collect myself after life events. I explained to gf i wasn't breaking up with her. She found a new place to live. And sweet up a spicy meeting with a couple all within 2 weeks. Didn't cancel the spicy meeting until the day before I started feeling better and came home.