When we met almost 10 years ago we were both working food service. Now, I (31M) have a 6 figure income and she (36F) still works in a kitchen, only works part time, and makes an income that is below the poverty line.

Luckily, with the income I make, we don't necessarily suffer financially. Essentially she pays for all of her stuff like cell phone bills, her portion of car insurance, and part of the groceries. I am left with all of the household bills and mortgage etc.

Even though we are comfortable financially, I can't help but notice coworkers and friends that have spouses and significant other with decent incomes. They are able to save far more than I can, invest, have nicer cars and go on vacations every year. I am getting to the point where I personally value those things in life.

I have a more modern outlook on relationships than her. She has stated multiple times that she admires the 50s household model where the man is the breadwinner and the woman is the homemaker. I think we are incompatible in that way. I've had many conversations with her over the last 6-7 years about finding a better paying job so that we both grow faster financially. Even a job that pays 40K would be a big improvement. She always states that she likes working in a kitchen and the prospect of switching careers 'stresses her out'. She also says that she thinks our efforts are even since she does most of the cleaning and laundry. Truthfully, I don't value that at all, because I do all the cooking, outdoor work, and maintenance around the house. I have even offered to support her while she goes to trade school to learn a skill..something like dental tech, etc. she doesn't want to do that either. I should also mention that she is 30K in debt from her college tuition and her credit is tanked because of that and other bad financial decisions before we met.

Because of this our relationship has stagnated. I've refused to marry her partly because of this (that is a whole other subject on its own). Her name is also not on the deed to my house. But I'm also far less attracted to her in general. Honestly, I see her as someone that just wants an easy ride through life without having to do stuff that 'stresses her out'. I want to get a job in a bigger city so I've applied for a few that I think I have a really good chance of getting so I think now would be the best time to break things off with her. I promise you I am not heartless, I do care very much about her, I'm just not willing to drag her through life financially. Given the amount of time she has been dependent on me, I am concerned about what will happen to her when we break up, she definitely can't afford to live on her own. Her parents live in the same state so she might be able to live with one of them. Any advice on how to go about this break up?