Hey reddit,

Im not sure how to feel about the last 48 hours.. i guess confused is the word.

SO told me friday she wanted to just be friends. That she cant deny she has feelings for me but shes not in a position to be in a relationship/date, that it could change down the line and we should be friends.

Ive felt from the beginning that she always had like anxiety it felt like she was walking around minefields and i would try reassure her constantly.

Anyways, we were supposed to work on a project, i told her i needed some time to think about it, the truth is as an SO i have no problem bringing someone into my life and helping but as just friends..i just have to much on my plate for a project of that magnitude the thought being stuck with someone that i formerly dated for some cases 24 hours..is something i needed to think about.

She was very insistent..and i caved originally, told her we could be friends hopefully leading to more down the line, she said sure.

Once i sat down…it made me realize that i wasn’t being honest, so i called her again..told her how i really felt, that this came as a shock, and i may need some time to think.

This set her off..she proceeded to turn pretty nasty, she said i was like every other guy i only wanted to get in her pants. I reminded her i very much could have early in our relationship..but we took it slow

She then also said you dont want to work on this project anymore because of your feelings, fuck your feelings. I cant deny her saying that hurt. She did apologize for saying that…but i feel once you say something like that there is no coming back. Another thing she said i found as a red flag was her saying maybe i shouldnt have told you and just continued but i didnt want to lead you on..i thought that was a strange statement to make.

She also brought up the entirety of our relationship, that when we first met i kissed her and she was kinda drunk, that when we reconnected i held her hand like the last two years didnt exist. She said she didnt like that only did it so i wouldnt get mad. But i remember it differently i kissed her on the cheek goodbye then she did the same, in all these cases she never once made it known to be she was uncomfortable in fact she would follow me? At her birthday..i didnt want to put pressure around her friends but she kissed me!

She did mention how she didnt like we didnt go to eat dinner at restaurant...and i reminded her i been trying to plan this museum trip for the longest.

I told her after i think its best we take a break, she said i don’t need a break dont lump into that but if you do sure lets take a break and she wanted to get off the phone fast.

Anyways now today is a new day..i think deep inside i know the answer already she already said friends and best to walk away from this.. i also feel this is such a small thing..in business how would you handle larger conflicts?