so me and my gf have been dating for 7 months and together for 9 months and our sex life is nowhere close to how it was. we had went from daily and sometimes multiple times a day in the beginning to now only 3-4 times a month and i fear it will be even less the more time goes on. we knew there would be a slowdown eventually but it’s more than just the sex that has slowed down. we spend all of our time together as much as we can other than when we’re at work. we’re extremely clingy and weird together and that’s why we fell for each other so deeply. i moved in with her after 3 months of dating (ik that’s quick) but it felt right so i did it and now it feels like we’re more roommates rather than dating. when i go to flirt with her she doesn’t flirt back. when i go to send her a dirty text she blows it off or changes the subject. when i go to initiate sex i consistently get told no and that she’s too tired. we normally do it right before bed so i get she would be tired but ive mentioned changing our time from at night to during the day when we’re more energetic and get told no. during sex when it does happen we never do any of the positions we used to do, we only spoon and that’s it. sometimes missionary but it’s been over a month since the last time that happened. i’ve told her i want to come to a compromise and have sex up to 2 times a week so that i feel reconnected to her and she’s said she wants to as well but has not tried to change one bit in the past two months. there’s so much more personal stuff i could post about but i just feel i can’t talk with her about this stuff without her crying from her trauma with ex’s. she claims im the best person she’s ever been with by far and based on her stories i believe her. but why continue to disappoint me by saying no when all i do for her is say yes? i’m just concerned that she’s falling out of love with me. i really want her and i love her more than ive ever loved anyone but im constantly being let down and im not sure how much i can take. if you can pm me with advice id greatly appreciate it!