Trying to keep this short:

My GF is from another country then me, and they have quite a few New Years traditions to kind of “manifest” good luck in different areas. All good. I don’t believe in that, but happy to participate if that means something to her. She’d been telling me that we have to put a key in our shoes if we want to buy a house this year (which we do), so again… all good. I’ll put a key in my shoes.

We’re 5 years together so this is not the first time we celebrated new years together, and I’ve never seen her do these traditions. But this year we’re celebrating with some of her friends from her country and they decided to do these traditions.

Midnight is coming up and she comes to me with a bunch of cash money. I’ve had a few drinks, so I admit I wasn’t anymore the sharpest tool in the shed at that point, and I asked her if I need to put it in my shoes. She immediately got visibly annoyed. I said ok, then explain it to me, and she then said she is mad and needs to cool off.

5 minutes later she’s cooled off and comes to me again with the money, handing it to me saying I need to fold it. I fold the money, and she again got annoyed with me because I had to fold it towards my body. At this point, I kind of just started laughing at how angry she was with me for this, and well… that set her off completely.

Entire night ruined. She gave me the silent treatment. We sat through 12am ignoring each other and went to bed shortly after. We were only 6 people total, so everyone of course noticed.

This is not the first time she throws a temper tantrum because of something like this. I genuinely tried to follow what she wanted me to do, but I admit it’s not my thing and I’d been drinking. If she had given me instructions earlier, not at 5 to 12, I could’ve easily participated, but she comes at the last minute and then got mad because I wasn’t following her quickly enough.

I’m really not wired like this and would never put so much pressure on someone, let alone get mad, because they’re not doing something they want me to do or in the way I want them to do it, unless it’s real important.

I know these traditions were important to her, and I’m aware I would have participated more enthusiastically/more aware if I hadn’t had a few drinks already, but to me this seems completely over the top.

She doesn’t think so though, so I’m not sure if maybe I’ve just been a total dick about it. Am I?