My wife and I have always had some issues with communicating. Especially our feelings. We have always acknowledged this and tired to work on it. We both have histories with parental related trauma and have therapists. Our issues finally came to a head after our wedding and we have had a couple blow up fights caused by us not expressing ourselves well. We are actively working on finding a couples therapist, but I just want some advice.

Neither one of us thinks this will be a long term issue or lead to a divorce. We both deeply love each other. For me personally, I have a hard time using the right words to accurately convey how I feel about things. She has a history of taking criticism harshly. She had an abusive dad. I definitely have triggered her and really want to correct that. I want her to feel comfortable talking to me about our relationship, even when I'm trying to voice displeasure about something.

I was just hoping for some insight from anyone that has had communication issues and fixed them?