My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years. We’ve had problems for a while. Two years ago we had a threesome with my friend and then later that night they did stuff alone. He knew the boundaries before and he broke them. And I feel like ever since then he’s just checked out. I need a lot of help at home because I’m in nursing school and work 50 hours a week so i ask him to maintain the things that are important to me like cleaning animals litter, groceries, dishes, and watering plants. These are important to me. I’ve explained that over and over and over and he just doesn’t do them or he half asses them and I have to go back and fix it all. Now all my plants are dead, he washed all the dishes except didn’t feel like cleaning my to go cups so left them there, there’s no food in the house and I want to cry because it just feels like he would do these things if he cared I shouldn’t even have to tell him to do them but I do and he still can’t do it. We haven’t gone out together in months, we don’t have sex, he doesn’t help me where I need him to, and I just don’t know what else I’m supposed to do. How do I fix this ? I don’t want to leave I just don’t know what to do. TLDR: how do I approach my boyfriend who seems checked out by not doing the things I ask him to help me with.