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How can I [M33] feel less creepy when I compliment my new partner [F31]?
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I have recently gotten into a new relationship. My previous ones have been less than ideal. Mainly due to physical unavailability by them and my love language being touch and intimacy.

My new partner is stunning. She's not dated in a long while (over 5 years) due to work focus and she has been doing a lot of personal training and gym work over the last few years. Honestly she's crazy fit. Legs to die for, and amazing ass and just in general insanely pretty. I feel extremely lucky that she's into me.

She's shared with me that her self esteem is quite low. I believe because she's been out of the dating game for so long and maybe because of her appearance before the self improvement and gym work (although that is just a guess as I haven't seen many pictures of her from that long ago). So I have been trying to drop compliments wherever I can around her. She seems to be very receptive to them but I can't shake the feeling that I don't want to come across as creepy. Some examples;

I told her I think on our 3rd date how beautiful she was and I could tell she was a little embarrassed and she mentioned she didn't believe so and it was the first time she mentioned about low self esteem. I made a light hearted comment about us both having to work to raise her self esteem. Which she seemed to like.

We were cuddling on the sofa and she was just wearing a baggy shirt and her legs looked insane but it took me 10 minutes of overthinking to come up with a way of letting her know this without coming across as creep.

We were on the sofa and she got up to get something, when she came back I gently took her hips to pull her to sit on my lap and the first thing she said to me was that she was heavy. She absolutely wasn't and I told her that.

I believe she doesn't think I am making things uncomfortable and she is very open and forthcoming with saying if something isn't right/bothering her. But I don't want her to feel like my compliments are cheapened or forced in any way. Because they definitely aren't. Also I don't want my compliments to just focus on her physical appearance as I don't want her to think that's all I'm attracted to (as her mind is amazing too).

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