I (35F) was dating an amazing guy (37M) for 6 months. We had great chemistry, communicated directly and really respected each other. Overall really fun and healthy relationship. When we first started dating, I wanted kids while he was unsure. The thing is, I’ve always been unsure about kids, but told him I want the possibility of having one in the future.

Last week we broke up because he decided kids aren’t something he wants for his life. He did some serious soul searching & told me as soon as he knew. We didn’t want to breakup, but did because of this difference. I’m kicking myself for accepting this and not discussing things on a deeper level. The breakup was amicable.. talked, shared some of our favourite memories and checked on each other the day after.

It’s only been a week since we parted ways, but I’ve learnt a great deal about loss and grief since. I’ve done some soul searching too, and I feel that I’ve changed* since meeting him. I’ve had many long-term relationships, and this is the best connection I’ve ever experienced. I want to be with him, and would be foolish to let him go. I’ve only ever felt I would want kids with the right guy. But I feel like I’ve met the right guy and would be happy being child free. I don’t feel I’ll regret this decision, no matter what happens in the future.

I’m not taking this decision lightly and I understand the best and worst case scenarios with putting myself out there.

I want to tell him how I feel. Any advice about how to go forward? How much time do you think is needed before initiating contact?