backstory: when i was 18, i was in a relationship that went long distance for a few months until my ex broke up with me since the lack of physical touch and whatnot was too much for her. At the time it definitely hurt a lot and her attempts to assure me "its not you, its just the circumstances arent working out for us" didnt really help. I dont blame her, i definitely get it now and long-distance without at least like a year or two of dating is definitely a dealbreaker for me now too. But again, at the time it hurt a lot and i wont lie, my self esteem did take a hit (i was a relatively introverted person).

Flash forward to now. I've been dating this girl for about 3 months and things have been pretty great. Only problem is im graduating and leaving the state in the summer, she still had plans for finishing school. Its 100% a dealbreaker for me to go long-distance, but i also just really dont want to fuck up her education and make her feel like shes obligated to adjust around my life. Shes a smart chick, hell, she enjoys doing calculus and making spreadsheets for fun. I dont wanna ruin her potential and i know she'll be able to find a better guy for herself.

Im going to break up with her, my mind is relatively made up on that, i guess im just lookin for advice or validation? I dont want to put her in the same hurting position i was in cuz it all sounds exactly like the situation I was in. Especially since shes also pretty introverted and im highkey her first boyfriend. Yeah yeah, call me irresponsible for not thinking this through at the start.