I (26F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (27M) for about three years. In the past two years, he hasn't had a job due to feeling burnt out from his previous work as a software engineer. He quit because he hated the environment and needed a break, but since then, he’s been relying on his savings to cover rent and living expenses. He’s currently back in school, and his parents are paying for his tuition and supporting him financially.

When I first met him, he had a stable job, a steady income, and was more active and motivated. But now, he spends most of his time at home, often saying there's no point in doing anything because of the state of the world. While he’s extremely supportive, caring, and emotionally fulfilling, I’ve found myself struggling with his lack of ambition. I want someone who is more stable, who handles challenges head-on, and who contributes to the relationship both emotionally and practically.

I’m starting to feel like I need a partner who is more motivated and independent, and I’m considering ending the relationship because of this. I know he’s going through a tough time, but I don’t know if I can wait around for him to figure things out. Should I tell him that he needs to find a job?