Previously, when we were in a committed relationship and living together, I found out that he was cropping me out of photos and trying to make it seem like he was single so that he could mislead women he's dated and not lose those connections. I tried to get him to stop following these women and he refused. I tried to get him to post pictures of us and he refused for a full year or more, then finally made two posts that showed I exist. He's never admitted this is inappropriate behavior and it drives me crazy.

This has always greatly bothered me and caused me a lot of stress. Now I'm pregnant and we're married, but he still refuses to stop following these women. He watches their stories, likes their posts, most of their profiles are private so I don't know what else he's doing. I just know he starts his morning on Instagram and checks it repeatedly throughout the day no matter how busy he is. I can believe he's not physically cheating, but I feel so disappointed he doesn't care about my boundaries or feelings. He says I should trust him and not be so controlling.

I can't get over how upset I am and I'm worried about all the stress on my baby. I have a high risk pregnancy and at 7 months am concerned with going into labor early or hurting the baby with all my disgust. It's hard for me to sleep as is and knowing that he values looking and connecting with these women over my peace of mind or well being is so distressing.

He's open to couples counseling, which we started unsuccessfully before but I'm trying to find a new counselor now. Any advice on how to talk to him about this or how to not feel so bad about this? I'm trying to find my own therapist, but for now I'm just so distressed and it's hard for me to eat or sleep. I wish I had a partner that cared more about my feelings or boundaries.

Edit: I found out I was pregnant very late because I was so stressed out with my mom dying. I've always wanted to be a mom. We got married because I wanted to get on his better insurance and I wanted my baby to have a chance at two parents. I figured with enough couples counseling he would see how unfair he is to me. I think he'd be a good dad.