So my wife recently picked up a new career where she needs to leave for 6 months for training in another state in the US. We have been together since we were 16 and have had our ups and downs. She cheated at 17 then I cheated at 28 and we had since moved on and become better, so I thought. We have 3 kids together 18,16, and 9 years old. We have always communicated but here recently with her new career school, she is not able to talk during work hours which I understand and she has weekends off. She is now going all the things she used to say she didn’t like and is always round other guys which I don’t mind but has not been giving me my place as her husband and blows me off while we are on the phone to talk to them while lm still on FaceTime. I spoke to her about it and she says she won’t do it again but continues to do it. We reached a pint where we finally talked about what was going on for the past 3 weeks she has been gone and how we can make it all work.

For the last week we had been talking great, no arguing talking every morning before shift and after her shift, falling asleep on FaceTime with each other and it was awesome. Yesterday Friday she tells me they are going to have a movie night, in her and her roommates room, I am on FaceTime and there are two guys in their room and they are having an innocent conversation, me and my wife are talking awesome and making jokes, the. Movie starts and the lights go out and I’m wondering who is laying next to her, she tells me it’s one of the guys sand that the other guy is on the other bed with the other girl, she tells me he is about a foot away from her for me not to worry, I instalo tell her I feel it is inappropriate for there to be another man with her on her bed, she gets irritated and asks me if I want for her to go to the floor, I tell her that he should be on the floor not her via text but we are still on FaceTime. I don’t want to ruin their movie by talking yet she is carrying on a play by play with this guy while I’m trying to communicate why I think it’s wrong, she seems to think it’s innocent enough, I try to explain it and she isn’t having it she is very irritated and just wants to drop the subject, at one point ignoring my texts and me calling for her, all I can see is blankets. Suddenly half way through the movie Around 10pm they decide that they are going to sleep and they make it seem like the guys are leaving and all the lights are turned off, I can’t see who if anyone is in the room including her, she is eager to hang up with me and irritated that I got upset about her laying in bed with another man in the dark. We tell each other I love you and goodnight and she goes to sleep. A couple minutes later I call her because I feel uneasy and she doesn’t answer, I send her a text and she ends up reading it an hour later and does not reply. Now my mind is going crazy with all these scenarios of her sleeping with the guy.

Before all this happened our problems had been that after a week of no wifi and no signal I finally get ahold of her at midnight via FaceTime only to find that there are 4 guys in the room with her and her roommate, she claims it’s because her roommate needed help with her mouthpiece, then while we are on the phone talking about how that is not right being that we are married and it’s late, she continues to carry on conversations with the guys, I mute myself and breakdown. I keep texting her but she doesn’t care. We spoke about it but the next day she asks if they can have a movie night in Their room, knowing that I do not like men in her room, and now knowing how the movie night goes, I really regret saying yes, they then go to the movies the next day 4 girls and 4 guys after which they go to dinner.

We talk about all the things that are bothering me and she tells me she loves me and not to worry that she is starting to get anxiety when she is going to her phone, not knowing if I’m going to be upset or loving, and that either I support her or I don’t and if not for us to go our separate ways. I tell her i support her and that I’m sorry for being a jealous insecure man, that I’ve always been very confident and secure and that that’s the man she married. Then a week later this movie incident happens after all week we had been getting along awesome. So not I don't know what to do or what to say, so I continue and pretend this never happened as she wants me to or what. I trust her but she is pushing the boundaries. And with me all of a sudden she is okay with me going out and hanging out with females after over a decade of being mad about me even talking to an old lady or giving any females rides after work old or young. yet she is going everywhere with a guy thats ay the training with her and her roommate, they are never alone as per her. she does keep me informed of everything that is going on and where she is going and with who. but this last incident makes me question our marriage. I am lost and do not know what to do. i don't want to lose her but I feel i already have. im taking care of our kids and home, working as an RN as well. any advice is welcomed. i called my therapist as i suffer from PTSD and was having suicidal ideation but have since been better. i wouldn't want to do that to my children, they need me.