EDIT: for clarification, she is going with him to California. He is being stationed there which is why she applied there. He would be financially supporting them there.

I'm writing this on behalf of my friend actually (F24). My friend has been married to M26 for 6 years. He is military so they move around a lot. They have no children, but many assets together, animals, a house cars etc. Recently, F24 began to file for divorce from him because she found out about his affair with a much younger coworker F19. It was ongoing for months behind F24's back while they were actively trying to get pregnant and she was unable and eventually unwilling. In July, before she was aware of the affair, F24 applied to nursing school in California which is a cross-country move from where we reside in Florida. Being a nurse is a dream for her and so she has been working towards getting into this program for the last 2 years or so.

Now it is months later, she has already contacted a lawyer and began therapy to recover from the trauma M26 has caused during the course of his ongoing affair. Yes, ongoing. He almost lost his job and is still being investigated actually. F24 found out today that she got into the nursing program and has one week to accept or deny. If she accepts she will have to stay married to M26 because he will pay for her school and hypothetically support her while she in the program.

I told my F24 I will support her regardless of what she chooses to but, I have seen M26 be abusive to her a handful of times, including pushing her down and giving her bruises. I am worried about her safety and mental health if she picks up her whole life again to not only pursue the nursing program but continue her marriage to this awful person. F24 has some family in California, but she would have to rely on them and I am unsure how secure that option is as well. She only applied to this one school and no where else, so it's really an all her eggs are in one basket kind of situation. Any advice is appreciated.