Has anyone that’s been divorced or saved their marriage encountered sexual assault trauma impacting their divorce? My wife and I have been together 17 years and have two daughters under 10. My wife is a survivor of sexual assault and we have had an amazing marriage, we don’t fight, we travel, we spend all of our time together, everything. Disney story type family and love. Best friends. On Mother’s Day I got up early to run the smoker and cracked a beer. She woke up angry and called me a selfish asshole and said I was dumb if I didn’t know why. She also called her ex that morning to tell him and his new wife happy Mother’s Day. Not jealous but rubbed me wrong. Anyways she wants space when she’s angry so every time I return to talk to her she was pissed off and we ended up hollering and yelling a little and slept in separate beds. My daughter had a nightmare so I went I check on them and kissed my wife’s forehead and she woke up and started screaming that I was pinning her down. I think repressed memories of her attack are coming to the surface. I took a polygraph to show that I didn’t even touch her in 17 years and she still doesn’t believe it. She goes to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy once a month but if she truly believes I hurt her the therapy is working against our family and marriage and she’s setting boundaries to where she will barely communicate with me. We have been separated 7 months and. Not even once has she wanted to go to therapy or done anything but get angrier each week. She had me over a month ago when she was sick to help her get undressed and get in the bath tub but that doesn’t fit her story of being afraid of me. I really really don’t want to lose my wife and get my kids half the time. I may be doomed though. I also quit drinking that day since she claimed my drinking was a problem and I was an alkie so I wanted to show my daughters I’m not and am going though the toughest time in life drop dead sober. I also don’t want it to look like I’m shifting blame or not given respect to her wishes but I think if she would just try therapy with me it might help. Has anyone experience something similar?