I 'M45' just moved in with my girlfriend 'F36' after five months of dating and we're having our first fight. Actually this is the first inkling of any disagreement. Apparently her ex promised all sorts of things and never followed through. I started organizing her kitchen for her. The level of clutter in this girl's house is staggering, and she knows it. She works a lot, so it's understandable. She was happy about me doing this because it got out of control and she just doesn't have the time to do it. So I started organizing the kitchen cabinets. I told her that was just the first phase and that I would put stuff aside for her to go through when she's got time so I'll know what's staying and what's going and what she's got room for. When she saw it she was elated! I got a big hug, a thank you and a "you're amazing!" About two weeks have passed and I haven't done anymore because she hasn't gone through the extra. I haven't pressed her because she's busy and we've got the holidays She asked me to vacuum the other day, so I did. This was five days ago. Last night she was slamming things around in the kitchen because she couldn't find something. I found it for her then she went off on me starting organizing the kitchen and not finishing it. I reminded her that I couldn't do any more until she went through the extra. Then she went off on me for not vacuuming properly. I didn't pull out the couch, move the furniture etc. So I went from being amazing to doing everything wrong, all because she didn't communicate. I was very understanding and explained that now I know, so I'll do better then right there at 10pm she starts vacuuming. I told her I'd do it, she refused help and now I'm getting the silent treatment. I asked her if we could talk and she said "about what?". This morning she left for work without giving me a kiss. I'm at a loss. I've apologized for the misunderstanding and offered an explanation with no response. I mean what the hell am I supposed to do? Most of me wants to show her my follow through and that I'm not like her ex, but part of me is saying "bail!". Any suggestions, opinions advice or comments?