Just as the question states does your spouse or partner give you unsolicited advice? How do you take it?

My husband often gives me a lot of unsolicited advice and sometimes will even do things for me that I don't want. I choose to be grateful but sometimes it bothers me. Sometimes I feel like he treats me like a child, like I can't do it myself or as if I'm not smart enough to figure it out.

This came up in counseling before that he feels like I'm often struggling for no reason, but that's how I learn. By doing. I've told him this.

Sometimes I'm not even struggling I'm just having a conversation about a situation and I say what I plan to do about it. I often narrate my thoughts and enjoy sharing my thoughts out loud. I feel connected to people when I do. He's not the only person that's given me unsolicited advice over the years when I share my plans. But my ability to stick to my plans has worn down over time. I feel that's partially because of the consequences I've faced at disagreeing with my partner on such a regular basis. It's made it harder to stand up for myself in other areas of my life.

Some days I feel like my voice, wants, needs, and desires don't matter. If I don't do it his way or follow his advice he gets upset. Or he won't get upset but he'll taunt me a bit and be like "I told you so". I used to be fine and ignore his advice when it didn't suit me but then we got into arguments about it.

My confidence has taken a hit for several reasons and I don't want to be ungrateful but I also don't want him to treat me like I'm incapable.

I appreciate his advice sometimes but I've gotten tired of it lately because of the lack of autonomy I feel lately. I want to fail and learn I know that's the only way I will regain my confidence.

Anyone dealt with this?