In the past I've almost exclusively dated people who either feel nothing for me after a couple months or a couple years, but then suddenly have all these "feelings" when someone better looking comes along and that turns into marriage. I understand that not everyone is a model, etc. Let me be clear: these are not even the best looking men I date, it's not like I'm dating out of my league as very hot men self-filter out. But I guess something about me or the situation empowers men to think they can do better. Also let me be clear: when they do get with other women and leave me, their life always declines drastically.

My most recent relationship took a similar turn: he seemed to enjoy talking to me and caring about me, but told me multiple times he wanted to be exclusive but didn't ask directly. We both were seeing others. Then after several years he ultimately stopped talking to me and was totally cool letting me go (we ended on a weird note). A year into this I messaged him and he responded right away like nothing happened and asked to see me. We talk for a while and he subtly says I can be his girlfriend and then says how people of his nationality make the best boyfriends. But I thought it was a ploy to sleep with me. He also apparently came to my town during this time but didn't see me and lied about it.

Anyway, it's clear I was forgettable to him. Given that I'm getting old, I want to finally focus on my ugly face. What has getting surgery done for your dating life? I already have a 9/10 body apparently but am like 4-5/10 face, so it's a problem, a huge insecurity and holds me back in life. Otherwise I'm a normal person with friends and a good job and interesting talents and have good values.