Me and my bf have been together for 4 years. The last few months my bf got close with someone who was new to his gym who is lesbian and has a wife. They basically became besties and text each other non stop everyday. He doesn’t hide her from me and he knows I get insecure so he tells me to not worry because she’s lesbian and is married. However, every time he’s texting with her he gets all giddy and having big smiles and laughing at his phone and sometimes his eyes glued to his phone typing his reply while I’m talking to him. He talks about her a lot and tells me that she reminds him of me because we have a lot of similarities. He boasts about her and how well they get along. I met her and her wife when she and my bf made plans to hangout together and I thought she is pretty cool and I can see why he says we are similar. I think the only difference is she has more of a tomboy style. Every time we hang out with her, my bf always offers to pay for all of us which I thought was surprising as we fought in the past about money and have been trying to save money. I feel like he enjoys her company more than mine as they always try to hang out after their class at the gym to go eat and drink even if it’s just the two of them. He really likes being social especially a place where he can have alcohol and having conversations so I feel like he would prefer to hang out with her than me since I don’t really talk when we go out to eat idk maybe it’s how shy I am or how I grew up but I usually just focus on eating than talking. I’m pretty insecure about it and it does make me jealous because it doesn’t seem like I can make him as happy as that. How can I not feel so insecure or jealous about it?