I have two friends within my circle that I've finally become fed up with after a recent incident at a party.

Let's start with the first one, B. B has what I would call serious anger issues that seemed to have gotten him in trouble in the past and have impacted his relationships with both his friends and girlfriend. However, at this most recent party, some serious shit went down. He approached a group of guys, whom I know, and randomly attacked one of them simply because he had heard that there was "someone" being weird with girls at this party. It's important to note the person who was actually making these girls feel weird had no relation whatsoever to this group and was literally just a random dude who had entered the party unknowingly. The rest of this group of guys fought back against him - literally a 5 v 1 - and chased him off. In his anger, and likely due to the groups of people who witnessed it and were announcing, as people often do in such circumstances, "WTF? Why did you do that?!" he proceeded to randomly punch a random girl in the head, knocking her down on the concrete and ran off. Because of the chaos of it all some of my other friends who hadn't directly witnessed it found him and took him back to one of their apartments, only to find out later what had actually occurred. In addition to this mayhem, he also punched a hole in the wall of their apartment. Now, what strikes me as just insane about this specific instance, is it seems as though the rest of my friend group has literally just shrugged it off as nothing. Life has gone on for everyone else and they continue to hangout with him. Not even a week after this they went out again with him to the bars, and now I've learned he's also coming to our Friendsgiving.

Now let me share about the other "friend" in question, N. N has been a longtime buddy of mine, we went to high school together and hung out a lot throughout college. He is respectful and someone I would call a good friend to ME. However, the way I have seen him act and treat some people I know has made me question if he is someone I want in my life, or whether these are somethings that I should simply just sit him down and talk to him about. To give a bit of context before further explanation it is important to note that our friend group is basically 5 couples, so 5 dudes and 5 gals. He has a long history with his GF and often times it makes me uncomfortable the way he treats her, especially being that she is also a longtime friend. He texts and talks to other girls, and talks to me about it as well as comments on women in public to me and it always makes me uncomfortable - both because I know it's wrong towards his GF, and because that sort of behavior is something I don't align with. Additionally, I am sober and do not drink, but he always tries pressuring me into drinking, and it can be incredibly obnoxious and embarrassing, especially when we are surrounded by large groups of people and I'm being drunkenly yelled at as to why I'm not drinking or him lifting bottles up over me as if I am going to drink. To add even more, a couple months back he did something that made one of the girls in my group pretty uncomfortable, enough so that she verbally announced it and repeated it again the day after to myself and her BF. These are just a few of the many instances where related events have happened.

Can someone comment on these situations? Am I insane for questioning whether I should stay friends with them? It has been pretty difficult dealing with it all, especially since literally no one else in my friend group seems to see any issue with these circumstances, but I am kind of fed up with it and have come to a moral dilemma as to whether or not I should be friends with them or not, or if I need to separate myself from the group entirely. I've cut off communication with both these individuals since their actions occurred, and I still get texts asking me why I haven't talked to them and I simply ignore them. However, it has been very hard on a personal level since I haven't really socialized with any of my buddies since we kind of act as a group most times.